As families continue to adjust to ongoing changes, one issue that I have been thinking and reading about is children’s resilience and their ability to have fun, and for the most part make the best of the situation. That is especially true if the adults in their lives show them love and make them know how important that child is as part of that family, and that God created them and has a purpose for their life.
As parents, we want to protect our children from harm or difficulties. Our usual response is to make it better or shield them from hard times or situations. During the past couple of months, it has been difficult to shield our children from all the many emotions that the pandemic brought into our homes. It is important that we view this time as an opportunity for growth, (“for in all things God works for the good of those who love him." Romans 8:28) and new things (“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?" Isaiah 43:19). One of the things parents can do is to continue to develop resilience in our kid, to help them learn how to work through difficult circumstances and deal with painful emotions. Here are a couple of suggestions from https://www.parentlab.com/ how parents can help their kids during the pandemic.
· Resist the urge to save them: while parents provide a sense of safety and security, they can also encourage their children to practice problem solving by letting them find their own way to cope. Parents can help organize projects and offer guidance while letting kids take more of a lead in setting their day to day schedule and activities.
· Focus on support: Rather than jump starting children when they are bored and unmotivated, parents can remind their kids of challenges they have overcome in the past, even just earlier during the lockdown. Parents should repeatedly tell their children that they are loved, they are safe, and have a loving family to care for them. Praying together is great. So is playing together. And baking cookies together. Just be there.
· Talk about Emotions: Resilience does not mean everything is great right now. It means noticing feelings and being honest about them. Parents can promote emotional growth by encouraging their children to talk about their feelings and validating them. This kind of communication with your kids may also help with a stronger family connection. https://nurtureandthriveblog.com/.
· Help Them See What is in Their Control: Talk to children about practical ways they are helping to prevent illness ( washing hands, keeping distance from others I the store, donating items to the food bank).
It is my prayer that we all can see how this time of isolation and social distance had provide a time when God works good new habits that will bring our families closer together and grow our trust and reliance on Him. Is never too late to start.